When you surf the various D/s, male chastity and cuckold sites, you see a lot of fantasy. And when it works it well, it is amazingly sexy and fun for everyone. The big lie in D/s is that one party has all the power. The truth is, there is compromise whenever you have two people. So the key is to find common ground, draw boundaries and then play within the lines. Of course over time, once trust and a certain comfort level is reached, the boundaries can be expanded. And the process of finding boundaries is not always pretty. Let me give you an example:
My gorgeous girlfriend and Mistress found a guy she really grooved with and they played hard and loud in the other room while I listened in excited frustration. When he came, she came pouncing into the bedroom and had me lick up all his jizz, happily calling me her cum pig. HOT!? Indeed. Hearing her moan and groan for hours was wicked. She had several encounters and it was a lot of fun.
But he wanted a friend and buddy to hang around with. This is not viable when you have a couple with busy lives. Its also obnoxiously presumptive.
More troubles rubs: We’ve only been together a year and some change. Miss X and I are not (yet) married, so I have a little less solidity than if we were. I became a little hissy when she wanted to see him a couple days in a row. That combined with a few encounters she had with lovers who decided seeing her was a date time gave me unfounded fearful feelings. I don’t get jealous of her having lots of hot sex, I do get troubled by her spending lots of “quality time” with these blokes. Fair or not, its messy.
So here are some tips for bulls:
- Don’t be a macho Dom to the wife or g/f of a cuck. You can be a hot powerful lover without games and posturing. My wife is a Domme, she’s not looking for a guy to Dom her. I’m sub, if anyone is going to be Dom’ed, it would naturally be me.
- Buy her a drink or two, not three or four.
- Never go "dutch". If you can't treat her to a cocktail, don't go!
- Keep your get-togethers reasonably short : two hours, three maybe.
- Be respectful to her. Manners count.
After discussing my fears and concerns with my benevolent Mistress, we agreed that to start, she’d not see any one lover more than twice per month. This helped alleviate that fear that she’d fall in love with another, or spend day after day with a guy.
Another troubling realization for me is sex itself. My g/f has a voracious sexual appetite. And frankly, I’ve been with a lot of women in my life. But Miss X has this sexual aura and demands quality and for the first time, I am off put by “the act”. I desire her with every fiber of my body, but there’s a maddening, vexing mentality I have that she deserves guys with bigger cocks and I should abstain. Much more often than not,I feel compelled to resist, rather than pursue the opportunity for sex with her. I never wanted a woman more, and yet relish denial. This frustrates her and me . Its intimidating. Has any other cuck reading this had that experience? It is agonizing, deeply humiliating, euphic, puzzling, fun and irritating. I dont' want to let Her down.
Lastly is the attempt to find a lover. She uses Craigslist and has good luck, the process is time consuming. Why do so many men feel compelled to reply with idiotic one liners? Write an interesting paragraph back with a good solid picture including a face. If you live in Seattle, follow the rules and have a decent cock you just might be fucking her soon!
